Being a working mom is tough for many reasons. You miss your little child all day while you’re at work, you come home tired and still need to save some energy to spend time with that sweet child, as well as uphold the home. It is easy for you to get overwhelmed with everything, which is why finding balance is so vital.
Tips to Maintain the Work-Mom Life Balance
Understand and embrace the fact that things have changed. The fastest way to mom guilt city is to expect everything to remain as it was with such a massive shift in your family life. You may not be able to do everything at work as before, such as work late, take lots of business trips, etc., and that is OK! Make adjustments where needed and ask your supervisor for flexibility in your schedule. Being able to come in a bit late if your baby kept you up all night is very good for safety and sanity, but also is better for your work product since you will be less stressed out and, therefore, more focused on work.
Keep work at work, but don’t completely leave your family at home. Particularly for a new mom who recently returned to work, leaving your family “at home” is just not possible. This was especially true as a breastfeeding mother since I had to pump every so many hours. My phone was full of baby photos, and I also could pull up the nanny cam app and see my little one at any time I needed to. So do bring pictures and let your office feel like a warm place where you don’t have to forget about your family. Then, focus on your work tasks so you can remain productive. But leave the office work behind when you go home for the day so you can focus on your family when you are home.
Get organized and streamline your routines. Morning and evening routines typically look the same each day, so get a plan together and write it down if you need to. Plan for the next morning the evening before, such as packing lunches and setting out clothing. Not only will this save you from forgetting something important (like setting the coffee pot), you’ll have more time to focus on what matters most.
Find a hobby you love, and make time for it. That’s something so important for moms since there’s always someone who needs our attention. When I do find that precious time to myself, doing something I enjoy helps me recharge and be able to do it all again the next day. For me, that is reading and book clubs. I try to make time for those, even if that means bringing the baby along.
Give yourself grace. Most importantly, be kind to yourself. I allow myself to be imperfect because I know perfectionism is impossible right now. So what if my house is messy? I’d rather spend time with my child than clean all the time. My nails don’t have to be painted. I don’t have to be the supermom who doesn’t exist. I do the best I can, both at home and at work, and I allow myself and others to pat me on the back for a job well done.
How do you maintain balance as a working mom?