Learn How to Truly Flourish

We have all experienced pain and difficult times in our lives. We have all been pushed back, knocked down, and get bruised by life’s hardships and struggles. However, the question really is, do you want to continue to ‘suffer’? Or, do you want to learn to put the past behind you, flourish and live a wonderful life? A life where you are more fulfilled, no longer focusing on and reliving the suffering from your past.

Having in mind that “Tough times don’t last, tough people do”. Here are the few things that you can do to truly flourish:

  • Think about the blessings in your life. You will feel more positive when you think about the blessings in your life, all the wonderful things and people that are in your life right now – your family, your home, the amazing country you live in, your health and so on, the list is endless and be excited for what the future may bring.
  • Don’t let yourself suffer too long after being heartbroken when a serious relationship ends. Once again, this is focusing on the past and what you no longer have. You are not able to change the past, so don’t continue to suffer unnecessarily.
  • Problems need energy to live. Don’t give your problems energy so they won’t appear daunting or big anymore. They will then become much easier to solve. Also, the best ‘headspace’ to solve problems is one where you have clarity, where you are relaxed and feel good.
  • Learn how to steer away from a suffering state- one where you are frustrated, angry, overwhelmed, stressed, worried, lonely or depressed- and toward a flourishing state- one of fulfillment, purpose, meaning and happiness. See suffering for what it really is, and realize that it is mind over matter and that you can free yourself from it. Life is too short to suffer. Why suffer when you don’t have to?
  • If you are experiencing anxiety, you are not in good shape to make decisions as you are only responding to what is happening around you. Slow it down. Sit in a quiet place, sit upright, relax and take in a few slow deep breaths. Hold it for a few seconds, saying ‘just breathe’ in your mind, and slowly release your breath. Repeat this five or six times, one after the other and you will feel much calmer.

The brain is designed for survival and is driven by fear. It’s not designed to make you happy. Our mind is always looking for what’s wrong and is prepared to go into ‘fight or flight’ mode. We might think that our suffering is caused by other people or situations beyond our control, but really it comes down to our own state of mind. It’s a case of mind over matter, though. You can certainly change the focus of your brain, especially if your heart is what’s running you, not your mind.

And most importantly, think about the things you are grateful for and really immerse yourself in those thoughts and feelings… and SMILE.

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