Blogging, Relationships

Finding Your Tribe

But, seriously, what does that even mean?

I started my blog over five years ago. At the time, it was just me sharing about my pregnancy. Over time, it has definitely turned into something else – a creative outlet, an excuse to do things I’ve always wanted to do, my own little slice of the internet.

When I began to take it a little more seriously (redoing the layout, actually thinking about my “look,” etc.), I kept coming across that term: TRIBE. There seem to be these little communities of bloggers out there, friends (and I have no idea if they’re actually friends in the real world or just virtually) who share each others’ posts and have similar topics and numbers of followers.

I know in the grand scheme of things, I’m really still just getting started, but…

Where’s my tribe?

Rewind. I am so thankful for the handful of real-life friends I have in my life. It’s amazing to know that there are some awesome ladies out there that I can reach out to and be honest with and laugh with (a lot). But as far as the online community, I’m still at a bit of a loss.

But let’s be real; I know why.

ME: My name is Cristina, and I’m a perfectionist.
YOU: Hi, Cristina.

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I think I’ve been so inwardly focused on how I can make this blog and my writing and my life better, that I have failed miserably in really trying to make connections with many other bloggers.

Well, you know me. To the internet! I read some articles and found a few actionable steps I (and you!) can take in the quest for the perfect tribe.

(1) Read other blogs.
I mean, duh. It seems obvious, but you have to get to know people before you can decide if they’re the friends for you. In the virtual world, reading someone’s “about me” page is the equivalent of shaking hands, and reading a few posts is like getting to know them. It seems pretty obvious to say that you can’t find new friends without getting to know some people.

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(2) Comment on and share those blogs.
Basically, as much as I might love certain blogs or articles, those writers will never know that if I don’t do something about it. Yes, this is where the work begins. It’s always been really important to be authentic and that absolutely applies here. So, I don’t plan on posting generic comments on every single blog I read. At the same time, I stumble across things I really enjoy and learn from all the time. There is no reason those folks putting out great content shouldn’t know that!

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(3) Networking events.
And here is where things get tricky for me. I am definitely an introvert, which means getting my butt to networking events and trying to make small talk with a room full of strangers is REALLY hard for me. Case in point: I spent about 95% of my office Christmas party sitting at a table, talking to the same handful of people the entire time. But part of this whole things is growth, right?

*Twitter Parties
Let me start by saying that I love a good Twitter party. In usually just an hour, you can learn about new products/services and get to know some folks a little. Well, a very little. I’m not saying it’s the case every time, but often there are giveaways involved in Twitter parties, which means a lot of people’s main motivation is not getting to know people. This means these may not be the best way to get to know folks.

2017 is still just getting started, and I’m ready to find my people! Do you have any blogs that you love and I should check out? Happy online-friend-finding!


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