10 Ways to Win the Waiting Game
Many of us suffer from the “I’ll be happy when” syndrome and look constantly into the future waiting for the perfect mate, job, or weight to bring us happiness. Our state of constant striving focuses on what’s lacking and what we don’t have. We are unhappy where we are and believe that when we get “there”, wherever “there” is, we’ll be more satisfied, fulfilled, and will achieve that elusive state of happiness. We are playing the waiting game!
Here are my top 10 ways to win at playing the waiting game:
- Slow Down
Slowing down provides the time and space to create awareness about what you want and what you need. Practice saying “no” to one demand on your time each day and learn how to either delegate the task or drop it all together. Focus on doing something to nurture your mind, body, and spirit each day. And lastly, set some clear boundaries on how much time you’ll devote to your email, your phone, and social media.
- Be Present
Live in the moment and be present to the activity you are engaged in at the time. Let go the past. It has passed and the future has not yet happened. Have fun and immerse yourself completely in the task at hand.
- Love What Is and Where You’re At
Accept things as they are now, including where you are and who you are. There is perfection in the imperfect. Give value in who you are, not just what you do. Love, accept and approve of yourself right now.
- Lighten Up
We all have many responsibilities but don’t mistake your commitment to fulfilling your obligations as serious business that you forget to enjoy life and have a sense of humour. You can still be responsible and have a good time. Upscale your emotions in every moment.
- Allow Time for Play
Play is not just for children. In fact, when we are having fun and engaged in an activity for the sake of having fun, we become spontaneous and unassuming. This creates a positive impact on our health and our well-being.
- Say “Yes, I’m In”
When you are invited to participate in a new adventure, face the fear, and do it anyway. Feel the anticipation and excitement as you learn a new skill or activity. Getting out of your comfort zone is like a breath of fresh air and allows you to focus on possibilities, develop new skills, and friendships.
- I’m Okay and All Is Well
Trust that you are okay and don’t engage in catastrophizing. Albert Einstein said, “The most important decision any of us make is whether we believe in a friendly or hostile universe.” Our decision impacts our perspective and the perception of our circumstances. Be positive and focus on what is going “right” in your life.
- Have an Attitude of Gratitude
Pay attention to what you appreciate and are grateful each day. When we are grateful, we draw more circumstances for us to be grateful about. Kick this up a notch and choose to believe in Pronoia, a term Rob Brezsny uses to describe a belief that the universe is showering us with blessings. Notice and be grateful for what you have in your life presently.
- Ask, Allow, and Receive
Use your imagination and dream big. What it is that you would like to have and that you believe would make you happy? Write it all down with as much detail as possible and believe in its manifestation. Trust that ‘it’s’ on its way to you and let go of the doubt. Your doubt is the obstacle to your success. Act as if and witness it appearing in your life.
And the big reveal... Drum roll, please...
- Be Happy Now!
Focus on your life and choose to be happy now. Choose to feel good. According to Burton Hills, “Happiness is not a destination; it is a method of life.” A favourite saying of mine comes from The Course in Miracles and it is, “Infinite patience produces immediate results.” When I choose to be happy now and am patient, trusting that what I want is on its way to me, I am never surprised at the speed by which it shows up.
So, here’s to playing the waiting game! I am wishing you much happiness.